Let’s say that two people come together and form a committed relationship. And part of their shared understanding, their full and total agreement, is that they won’t have kids.
Fine. Every couple is entitled to set things up the way they want.
But then, five years later, on of them changes her mind. People she knows start having kids and it seems great. Now she wants kids too. This is a sincere change of heart. Not, as I’ve seen in some cases, a situation of saying one thing to get into the relationship and then “changing your mind” once you’re married.
And she wants to talk to him about her change of mind but he won’t do it. A deal is a deal, he says.
Oh oh! Now what? (more…)